How to Find the Missing Key to Greater Success

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Written by Raymond Salas

Does success keep eluding you in one or more areas of your life despite all of your efforts?

Do you feel like you're doing all the “right” things to be successful, yet still feel like you're “missing the mark” somehow or some way?

Or does it ever feel like you're missing the key ingredients to greater success?

Well...you're not alone.

While many success systems and teachers have done a good job of helping many to identify what they do want and how to take action steps or focus positive energy in the direction of these goals and desires, many are missing some of the key ingredients to greater success that are often overlooked.

So what is the magical key?

Well, it's not really magical, just not always obvious.


The Missing Key to Greater Success: Relax more.

Yes, you read that correctly.

The missing key ingredient to greater success is to relax more. In other words, take it easy. Have fun. Chill out. Lighten up.

Many in their pursuit of success miss this one because they are trying soooooo hard to reach their goals, manifest their desires, and get what they want. As result, success becomes like a tense, stress-filled race to a finish line (that doesn't exist).

For me, success has always come the easiest when I was relaxed and trying to have as much fun as possible. My ideal role model here is Richard Branson. Sir Richard has reinvented fun and adventure, becoming incredibly successful and wealthy in the process.

Success is like trying to hit a baseball well. You can have a strong desire and goal to hit the ball successfully, but if you are too tense or trying too hard, you will likely either swing and miss the ball completely or pop it straight up for an easy out. The key here is to be ready, yet relaxed for your greatest chance for success.

The same is true for the game of life.

In “Law of Attraction” speak, trying too hard just creates more resistance within us, pushing further and further away the manifestation of our goals and desires.

Once you are pointed downstream in this Current of Life (towards the goals, desires, and everything that you want), it is not necessary to put a motor on your “boat” (i.e., try harder, work harder, or focus more) to make it go faster. The Current will carry you...just let go of the oars.

When you are no longer paddling against the Current (of your life) – when your release your oars and relax into your own natural Well-Being – the Current, which is ever moving in the direction of that which you have become and all that you want, will carry you towards your desires.” - Abraham-Hicks


How to Find the Missing Key to Greater Success:

How to Relax More

  • Remember to relax and breathe.

I know that it sounds basic and obvious, but remembering to consciously relax and breathe daily is the key here.

Thriving is as natural as breathing itself. By relaxing often, and breathing deeply – your natural thriving is enhanced.

Next time you feel any discomfort, stop in the middle of it and say to yourself, 'This discomfort that I'm feeling is nothing more than my own awareness of resistance. Time for me to relax and breathe. Relax and breathe. Relax and breathe.' And you can, in seconds, bring yourself back into comfort.” - Abraham-Hicks

  • Learn to enjoy the process.

I remember seeing an interview with the late Kobe Bryant, the 2008 NBA (National Basketball Association) Most Valuable Player award recipient and winner of three consecutive basketball world championships (2000-02) playing for the Los Angeles Lakers. During this interview, he was asked what was it like to win the three consecutive world championships. He said that while it was great and a long-held desire of his, the moment passes very quickly, then it's back to work on the next goal. He said that what he really loved was the process and season leading up to each championship. That is what he enjoyed the most.

The main event has never been the manifestation; the main event has always been the way you feel moment by moment, because that's what life is.

You're always, always, always going to be on your way to something more – always. And when you relax and accept that, and stop beating up on yourself for not being some place that you're not, and instead, start embracing where you are while you keep your eye on where you're going – now life becomes really, really, really fun.” - Abraham-Hicks